Emotionally Focused Therapy: A Path to Secure Love

Through EFT, I help couples understand that underneath conflict lies a deep need for secure attachment. When we feel disconnected, we often react with anger or withdrawal – but these are really protests against the loss of connection.

Your relationship distress makes sense. You're caught in a pattern that blocks the emotional safety you both need. I'll help you identify this cycle, understand the attachment emotions driving it, and create new patterns of sharing vulnerability and responding with comfort.

Outcomes: Creating a port in the storm of life

Through EFT, couples develop what Bowlby called a "safe haven" – a relationship where you can:

• Turn to each other in times of need
• Share fears and vulnerabilities freely
• Trust in your partner's emotional presence
• Abillity to repair and reconnect from conflict
• Create a "secure base" for growth and exploration

As you build this secure attachment, you'll find that relationship distress diminishes and love deepens. You'll develop what we call "earned secure attachment" – the ability to maintain emotional connection even when facing life's challenges.

The Process

      Understanding Your Cycle

• Map your negative dance
• Access deeper emotions beneath surface reactions
• Understand attachment panic driving disconnection

      Creating Secure Connection

• Share attachment needs and fears
• Respond with understanding and comfort
• Build lasting emotional bonds